What had gotten me thinking about complaining? During USS (ustazah sakinah saptu) 's class last week, there was a hadith that got me reflecting le self...
Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: The Prophet said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you." Sahih Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 2, Number 28
Okay i know the hadith stated above is specifically talking about not being grateful and complaining about your husbands and all.. But complaining in general is bad, right? Well i guess complaining can be categorized into two parts; complaining to the Almighty himself, and complaining to humans. Obviously the first one is of higher preference, as said in the Quran:
"I only complain of my distraction and anguish to Allah." (Yusuf 12:86).
As letting your heart out to Him can bring benefits and insyaa Allah no harm, it is better to just keep quiet and make dua. Complaining and letting out your problems to other people won't really do you any good as they don't actually understand the situation you're in. Confiding in psychologists or doctors is of course another matter. People would perhaps look at you differently or judge you afterwards. Therefore i guess it is better to keep your problems (especially family problems) to yourself and just confide in Allah. But thats a bit hard for us Singaporeans, i guess? Cos haha i think complaining is in our blood :I
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Since we're in this topic, let's talk about social media.... Twitter and facebook specifically. Cause when the weather's hot, when your mum didn't cook anything and you're hungry, or the bus is arriving late... what do we always do? YES. Tweet about it. And the timeline or newsfeed will be filled with complaints and the timeline will be like a mini 'feedback' form you get what i mean? I guess the only answer to this is restraining yourself to tweeting/posting these kind of things especially if you have a lot of followers/friends equaling to more people seeing your 'feedbacks'. Better still, don't have social media accounts at all. Hey, you're not really losing anything. Wanting to stay in contact with online friends isnt really an excuse. Humans created mobile phones for a reason, right?
#nts
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